Revisiting 'Grey Gardens': Nostalgia, Eccentricity, and Unexpected Connections

Grey Gardens Criterion Collection DVD Cover

I love reflecting on elements of my past, and "Grey Gardens" holds a special place in my heart. I first saw the film with my middle and high school friend, Terry Kelly, later known as Lindon Hawk. Honestly, I didn’t pay much attention at the time because if you ever met Terry, you'd know his charisma and personality was a complete distraction. Many years later, I stumbled upon a VHS copy of the film and decided to rewatch it. Feeling nostalgic and curious about Terry's fascination with it, I was eager to relive the moments with him.

"Grey Gardens" is a documentary that's as much about the lives of its subjects as it is about the visual storytelling. Picture this: a crumbling East Hampton mansion, once a symbol of grandeur, now home to the enigmatic duo of "Big" Edith Beale and her daughter, Edith "Little Edie" Bouvier Beale. These two women, former socialites and relatives of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, live in a world of their own making, surrounded by cats, raccoons and memories of bygone days. The film, shot in 1975, offers a raw and unfiltered look at their eccentric existence, capturing the blend of humor, sadness and resilience that defines their lives.

"Grey Gardens" doesn't just tell a story; it invites us into the world of Big and Little Edie with an intimacy that's both fascinating and, at times, uncomfortable. The Beales' relationship is a compelling mix of dependency, love, and frustration, vividly painted through their candid conversations and the stark reality of their surroundings. Then there's Jerry Torre, the gardener-cum-handyman affectionately dubbed "The Marble Faun." His presence adds another layer of warmth and quirkiness to the already colorful tapestry of Grey Gardens. Jerry, with his youthful energy and genuine affection for the Beales, becomes an unlikely yet indispensable part of their lives. The moment I saw him on my little TV screen, the hair on the back of my neck stood up and I shouted, "I know him!!!" During my time in New York back in 1992, our paths crossed. As good as my memory is, I can’t remember where we met or who introduced us. I feel like my sorta-BF at the time, Erik Harden, may have been our mutual friend. Erik knew everyone and their dad, especially if there was something a little artsy or quirky about them. I met Tab Hunter, Lou Reed, and Quentin Crisp through him, so it wouldn’t surprise me that he and Jerry were acquaintances.

Edie and Mrs. Beale and the Marble Faun, Jerry

What makes "Grey Gardens" truly special is its authenticity. There are no scripts, no actors—just the Beales, Jerry, the filmmakers and a few others being themselves. This unscripted nature allows the documentary to resonate on a deeper level, reminding us of the strength of the human spirit in the face of adversity. It’s a film that captures the essence of its subjects, preserving their story in a way that’s both touching and thought-provoking.

Whether you’re a fan of documentaries or simply looking for a unique viewing experience, "Grey Gardens" offers a glimpse into a world that’s both alien and familiar. It’s a testament to the power of storytelling and the enduring appeal of real-life characters who, in their own way, leave an indelible mark on the fabric of history. So, grab some popcorn, settle in, and let the Beales take you on a journey you won’t soon forget.

Edie and Mrs. Edith Beale, the stars of Grey Gardens

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